I'm mid 40's a gay man living in Southern New Jersey. Close enough to phila pa. I've never been pied, into being WAM or gunge...but want to know more. I'd like to try it...but am having a tough time getting started. I must be discreet but can say I am told to be nice looking. Have love handles and a bit of a belly, but all around nice guy. Non smoker, DDF social drinker